Spring 2002/Pasadena
CN535
Kok

CN535: GRIEF, LOSS, DEATH, AND DYING. James R. Kok.


DESCRIPTION:

End of life issues including human suffering, death and dying, the place of God in suffering and death. A major emphasis will be the dynamics of grief and loss and the challenges of pastoral ministry in these critical situations. The personal growth needed for effective pastoral presence and counseling will be a prime focus.

RELEVANCE FOR MINISTRY:
The major opportunities for pastoral care emerge from loss, pain, grief, death, and the encounter with dying. Nothing is more relevant to pastoral ministry than presence and support in crisis and loss. The theology of suffering and the problem of theodicy are central issues in pastoral theology.

COURSE FORMAT:
The course is both content and process: understanding the nature of loss experiences, of grieving, of encountering the reality of dying, of ministry in each of these crises and owning, facing, exploring and embracing our own losses. Lecture and experiential process will be parts of the whole experience of correlating theology and therapy. The class will meet once a week for a three-hour session.

REQUIRED READING: *recommended for purchase
*Kok, James R. Waiting For Morning: Finding God in Suffering. CRC Publications, 1997.

*Kok, J.R. and A.E. Jongsma Jr. The Pastoral Counseling Treatment Planner. John Wiley & Sons, 1998.

  Lewis, C.S. A Grief Observed. Seabury Press, 1963.

  Meyer, Charles. A Good Death. Mystic, CT: Twenty-Third Publications, 1998.

  Smith, Harold Ivan. A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss while Others are Celebrating. Beacon Hill Press, 1999.

  Soelle, Dorothy. Suffering. Fortress, 1975.

*Van der Zee, Leonard. In Life and in Death (A Pastoral Guide for Funerals). CRC Publications.

  Wezeman, P.V. and K.R. Wezeman. Finding Your Way after Your Child Dies. Ave Maria, 2000.

*Wolterstorff, Nicolas. Lament for a Son. Eerdmans, 1987.

  Worden, J. William. Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy. Springer Publishing Co., 2002.

*Zonnebelt-Smeenge and DeVries. Getting to the Other Side of Grief. Baker, 1998.

RECOMMENDED READING:
Becker, Ernest. The Denial of Death. The Free Press, 1973.

Kok, James R. 90% of Helping is Just Showing Up. CRC Publications, 1996.

Nuland, Sherwin B. How We Die. Knopf, 1994.

ASSIGNMENTS:
  1. Complete all required readings and a one-page critique/reaction on all required books.

  2. Weekly "reflections" papers focusing on the subject of the course as impacting the student personally (two-page maximum), handed in at the start of each week's class. No paper, no class.

  3. Spend 45-60 minutes alone in a cemetery noticing, observing, thinking, reflecting. One extra reflection sheet covering this experience. Complete by beginning of 6th class session.

  4. A one-page eulogy on yourself. Complete by beginning of 7th class session.

  5. Draw up a funeral service. Begin the order of worship with your call to worship (opening sentences), include your prayers, and 6 to 8 scriptures; your sermon text; benediction; closing words. Also include words of committal. Add your plan and words (texts, homily, prayers) for the graveside service. Complete by beginning of 8th class session.

  6. Required books and the reports should be completed on a one-per-week schedule.

PREREQUISITES: None.

RELATIONSHIP TO CURRICULUM:
Meets the M.Div. core requirement in Pastoral Counseling (MIN 5).

FINAL EXAMINATION: None.